Want to be happy? Be grateful | David Steindl-Rast · TED
本视频探讨感恩与幸福的关系，适合练习情感类话题和表达感谢的英语句型。
There is something you know about me, something very personal, and there is something I know about every one of you
关于我，你们知道一些非常私人的事情；而关于你们每一个人，我也知道一些同样的事情。
and that's very central to your concerns.
而这正是你们所关心的核心问题。
There is something that we know about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street,
关于我们在世界上任何地方、任何街道上遇到的每一个人，我们都知道一些事情。
that is the very mainspring of whatever they do and whatever they put up with.
这正是他们所做一切事情、以及他们所忍受的一切事情的根本动力所在。
And that is that all of us want to be happy.
我们所有人都希望自己能够幸福。
In this, we are all together.
在这件事上，我们所有人都是团结一致的。
How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another, but it's already a lot that we have all in common,
我们对幸福的想象各不相同，但我们之间其实有很多共同之处。
that we want to be happy.
我们渴望获得幸福。
Now my topic is gratefulness.
现在我要讨论的主题是“感恩”。
What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness?
幸福与感恩之间有什么联系？
Many people would say, well, that's very easy.
很多人可能会说：“嗯，那非常简单。
When you are happy, you are grateful.
当你感到快乐时，你就会心存感激。
But think again.
但是再想一想吧。
Is it really the happy people that are grateful?
真正心怀感激的人，真的是那些快乐的人吗？
We all know quite a number of people who have everything that it would take to be happy,
我们都知道很多人其实拥有所有能够让自己幸福的条件。
and they are not happy, because they want something else or they want more of the same.
他们并不快乐，因为他们想要别的东西，或者想要更多同样的东西。
And we all know people who have lots of misfortune, misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have,
我们都知道一些遭遇了许多不幸的人——那些不幸是我们自己都不愿经历的。
and they are deeply happy.
他们非常幸福。
They radiate happiness.
他们身上散发着幸福的气息。
You are surprised.
你感到很惊讶。
Why?
为什么呢？
Because they are grateful.
因为他们心怀感激。
So it is not happiness that makes us grateful.
因此，让我们心存感激的，并不是幸福本身。
It's gratefulness that makes us happy.
正是感恩之心让我们感到快乐。
If you think it's happiness that makes you grateful, think again.
如果你认为正是幸福让你心存感激，那么请再好好想想。
It's gratefulness that makes you happy.
正是这种感恩之情让你感到幸福。
Now, we can ask, what do we really mean by gratefulness?
现在，我们可以问：我们所说的“感恩”究竟指的是什么？
And how does it work?
它是如何工作的呢？
I appeal to your own experience.
我请大家参考自己的亲身经历。
We all know from experience how it goes.
我们都从亲身经历中知道事情的发展过程是怎样的。
We experience something that's valuable to us.
我们经历了一些对我们来说非常有价值的事情。
Something is given to us that's valuable to us.
有人会给予我们一些对我们来说很有价值的东西。
And it's really given.
而且这一切确实都是无偿给予的。
These two things have to come together.
这两件事必须同时发生（或：这两者必须结合起来）。
It has to be something valuable, and it's a real gift.
这份礼物必须是具有价值的物品，才能算得上是真正的礼物。
You haven't bought it.
你还没有买它。
You haven't earned it.
你还没有资格获得它。
You haven't traded it in.
你还没有把它送去兑换（或报废）。
You haven't worked for it.
你还没有为它付出过努力（或：你还没有为它工作过）。
It's just given to you.
它就是直接给你的。