The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU · TEDx Talks
演讲者通过自身经历，强调自信在运动和生活中的重要性。适合练习自信表达和自我认知。
Transcriber: Jaime Ochoa Reviewer: Elisabeth Buffard In my past life as a soccer coach, once you won a national championship,
转录者：Jaime Ochoa 审稿人：Elisabeth Buffard 在我之前作为足球教练的职业生涯中，一旦赢得了全国冠军，……
everyone wants to come play for you.
每个人都想为你效力、为你效力。
Really not true.
这根本不是事实。
Once you paid them $ 25,000 a year in scholarships, everybody wants to come play for you.
一旦你每年向他们提供 2.5 万美元的奖学金，就会有人纷纷想来为你效力（即愿意为你效力或为你效力）。
And parents would always come to me and they'd say: "Okay, my son or my daughter wants to come play at your university,
家长们总是会来找我，他们会说：“好吧，我的儿子或女儿想去你们大学里玩玩。
what is it that we have to do?
我们需要做些什么呢？
You know, what are you looking for?"
你知道吗？你到底在寻找什么呢？
And being the Socratic professor that I am, I say, well, what does your son or daughter do?
作为一位具有苏格拉底式教学风格的教授，我会问道：“那么，你的儿子或女儿是做什么工作的呢？
What do they do really well that we'd be interested in?
他们在哪些方面做得非常出色，从而引起了我们的兴趣？
And typically their answers are, well, they've got great vision.
他们的回答通常是：他们拥有非常出色的远见卓识。
They're really good.
它们真的非常棒。
They can see the entire field.
他们能够看到整个场地的情况。
Or, my daughter is the fastest player, there's nobody that can beat her.
或者，我女儿是速度最快的球员，根本没有人能打败她。
Or, my son's got a great left-footer.
或者，我儿子是个非常出色的左脚射门球员。
Really great in the air and can hit every ball.
在飞行状态下表现非常出色，能够击中每一个球。
I'm like: "Yeah, not bad; but to be quite honest with you, those are the last things I'm looking for.
我心想：“嗯，还不错；但说实话，这些根本不是我想要的。
The most important thing?
最重要的是什么？
Self-confidence."
自信。
Without that skill, and I use the word skill intentionally, without that skill, we are useless as a soccer player.
如果没有这项技能（我特意使用了“技能”这个词），那么作为足球运动员，我们就毫无价值了。
Because when you lose sight or belief in yourself, we're done for.
因为当你对自己失去信心或不再相信自己时，我们就完了。
I use the definition of self-confidence to be the ability or the belief
我将“自信”的定义理解为一种能力或信念。
to believe in yourself, to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity.
要相信自己，无论面对多大的困难、多大的挑战，无论遇到多少逆境，都要努力完成任何任务。
The belief that you can accomplished it, self-confidence.
相信自己能够完成任务，这就是自信。
Some of you are saying, "Great, I don't have it.
你们中有些人可能会说：“太好了，反正我也没有这个东西。
I'm so shy.
我非常害羞。
I'll never do that, bla, bla, bla."
我永远都不会那么做的， bla, bla, bla……
And you start to drag all the way down here.
然后你开始把所有内容都拖到这里来。
But, I use the word skill because I believe it can be trained.
不过，我之所以使用“技能”这个词，是因为我相信这种能力是可以通过训练培养出来的。
And I'll show you a couple of ways in which we do.
我会向你们展示我们实现这一目标的一些方法。
Hopefully I won't run out of time.
希望我的时间不会用完。
I don't use any slides because my speech always goes here, or here, or here.
我不需要使用任何幻灯片，因为我的演讲内容总是会涉及到这些方面。
So we'll see which way we get to.
那么，我们就看看最终会走向哪个方向吧。
The easiest way to build self-confidence: there's no magic button.
建立自信最简单的方法就是：根本不存在什么“神奇的按钮”或捷径。
I can't say: "Hey, this plane is going down, who can fly?
我不能这样说：“嘿，这架飞机马上就要坠毁了，谁会飞呢？
Put your hand up."
请举手。
"I can, I'm confident!"
我一定能做到，我非常有信心！
Repetition, repetition, repetition.
重复，重复，再重复。
Right?
对吧？
What does Malcom Gladwell call it, the 10,000-hour rule?
马尔科姆·格拉德威尔将这种现象称为“一万小时法则”（即通过持续不断地练习或学习，才能达到某种高水平）。
There's no magic button.
根本不存在什么“神奇的按钮”可以解决问题。