The Secret to Great Public Speaking (No, It's Not Confidence) | Jess Ekstrom | TEDxSugar Creek Women · TEDx Talks
Jess Ekstrom分享如何从恐惧到获得掌声的转变，强调公共演讲应聚焦信息传递而非自我表现，适合练习演讲技巧与自信表达。
Transcriber: Ridhee Joshi Reviewer: Simin Kazemi
转录者：Ridhee Joshi 审稿人：Simin Kazemi
As a kid, do you remember the absolute adrenaline rush of hearing the ice cream truck?
小时候，你还记得听到冰淇淋车驶来的声音时那种令人兴奋不已的感觉吗？那种肾上腺素激增的感觉，至今仍历历在目。
I lived at the top of my neighborhood,
我住在社区的最顶端。
so I took it as my civic duty to hop on my bike and alert the rest of the kids.
因此，我认为自己有责任骑上自行车，去提醒其他孩子们。
Looking back on this experience, did I care how I looked frantically knocking on people’s doors during dinner time,
回顾这段经历，我真的在乎自己在晚餐时间疯狂地敲门、弄脏自己外表这件事吗？
drenched in sweat?
浑身大汗？
No.
不。
Did I care how I sounded, shrieking, “The ice cream truck is coming!
我当时在乎自己的声音听起来像什么吗？我尖叫着：“冰淇淋车来了！
Smash your piggy banks.
把你们的存钱罐都砸了吧！
Grab your flavors!”?
快抓住你们喜欢的味道吧！
No.
不。
Why didn’t I care?
为什么我当时毫不在意呢？
Because I knew I had critical information,
因为我知道自己掌握着关键信息。
that they wanted to know.
他们想知道的事情。
So public speaking wasn't about me.
所以，公开演讲这件事其实与我个人并无直接关系（即：公开演讲的重点并不在于我个人的表现或能力）。
It was the information I had that I knew could serve them.
正是我所掌握的信息，我认为这些信息能够对他们有所帮助。
With AI on the rise, to say lightly, public speaking and human-to-human connection is becoming increasingly important.
随着人工智能技术的快速发展（这其实是一个非常严重的趋势），公开演讲以及人与人之间的交流与互动变得越来越重要。
Sure, you can go on ChatGPT to help craft an email to your boss asking for a raise.
当然，你可以使用 ChatGPT 来帮助你撰写一封给老板的邮件，请求加薪。
But what about when she calls you into her office to discuss?
但是，当她把你叫到她的办公室去讨论事情时，该怎么办呢？
You can’t interrupt her mid-sentence and go to AI and be like, “Line?”
你不能在她说话中途打断她，然后跑去问人工智能：“这句话是什么意思？
Public speaking is becoming increasingly more important, whether it is giving a presentation to your peers, talking to your spouse,
公开演讲变得越来越重要了，无论是向同事做汇报，还是与配偶交谈……
or working up the courage to call your favorite restaurant for takeout because they’re not on Uber Eats.
又或者，鼓起勇气给最喜欢的餐厅打电话订外卖，只是因为他们不提供 Uber Eats 服务而已。
Public speaking is the fuse that brings us all together.
公开演讲就像一根将我们所有人联系在一起的“导火线”。
It’s also the gateway to opportunity, the first step in a multi-million dollar deal,
它同时也是通往机遇的门户，是达成一笔数百万美元交易的第一步。
or a partner saying yes to a proposal or landing your dream opportunity.
又或者是某个合作伙伴同意了你的提议；又或者是你终于获得了梦寐以求的工作机会。
Was someone out there who knew how to deliver what they wanted to say.
有没有人能够恰到好处地表达自己想要说的话呢？
So why do people fear public speaking more than they fear sharks, spiders and heights?
那么，为什么人们害怕公开演讲的程度超过了害怕鲨鱼、蜘蛛或高处的程度呢？
Or, as Jerry Seinfeld says, “Most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy at the funeral.”
或者，正如杰瑞·宋飞（Jerry Seinfeld）所说：“大多数人宁愿自己躺在棺材里，也不愿在葬礼上发表悼词。
Because public speaking is one of the most vulnerable, exposed human experiences.
因为公开演讲是人类最容易感到紧张、最容易受到外界评价的体验之一。
Personally, I blame school spelling bees or performances where we felt like we couldn’t miss a letter that we had to deliver every line perfectly.
就我个人而言，我认为问题出在学校举办的拼写比赛或各种表演活动中——在这些活动中，我们总觉得不能有任何失误，必须把每一句话都完美地表达出来（即不能漏掉任何一个字母）。
But the standard of perfection puts our nerves into a pressure cooker.
然而，这种对完美的苛刻要求让我们的神经处于极度紧张的状态中（就像被关在高压锅里一样）。
And so we've been told to combat our nerves, especially as women, to just speak up, stand tall,
因此，我们被告知要克服自己的紧张情绪，尤其是作为女性，要勇敢地表达自己的观点，要挺直腰板、坚定自信。
or my favorite one, take up space!
或者我最喜欢的那一点：它们会占用空间！
But what this kind of advice does is it shifts the attention back onto ourselves, which is ineffective.
但这种建议实际上只是将人们的注意力重新引回到我们自己身上，而这是毫无效果的。
Great speakers believe they are delivering great information, whether it is about an ice cream truck or about something that will increase your lifespan.
优秀的演讲者坚信自己正在传递有价值的信息——这些信息可能涉及冰淇淋车的相关知识，也可能是一些能够延长人类寿命的实用方法。
But the other thing that we get wrong is we believe that in order to be a great public speaker,
但我们另一个常见的误解是：我们认为要想成为一名出色的公众演讲者，就必须具备某些特定的条件或技能。
you have to be the center of attention.
你非得成为众人关注的焦点才行。
You have to be the loudest one
你必须成为那个说话声音最大的人。
in the room with the most boisterous
（指在）那个房间里的人最多、最吵闹的
personality, or you have to have the
个性（personality）；否则你是无法成功的。