The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown | TED · TED
Brené Brown分享了她关于人类连接的研究，探讨脆弱如何影响我们的生活、工作和人际关系。适合练习演讲表达和情感交流。
So, I'll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event.
那么，我先从这件事说起：几年前，一位活动策划师联系了我，因为我当时要参加一个演讲活动。
And she called, and she said, "I'm really struggling with how to write about you on the little flyer."
她打电话来说：“我在想该如何在小传单上写下关于你的内容，实在很纠结。
And I thought, "Well, what's the struggle?"
然后我想：“那么，问题到底出在哪里呢？
And she said, "Well, I saw you speak, and I'm going to call you a researcher, I think,
她说：“嗯，我听了你的演讲，我觉得你应该被称作一位研究人员。
but I'm afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because they'll think you're boring and irrelevant."
但我担心，如果我称你们为“研究人员”，恐怕没人会来参加活动；因为他们会认为你们很无趣，而且所说的内容也与活动主题无关。
And I was like, "Okay."
然后我就想：“好吧。
And she said, "But the thing I liked about your talk is you're a storyteller.
她说：“不过我对你演讲最感兴趣的地方在于，你确实是个擅长讲故事的人。
So I think what I'll do is just call you a storyteller."
所以，我想我就直接称你为“故事讲述者”吧。
And of course, the academic, insecure part of me was like, "You're going to call me a what?"
当然了，我内心那个缺乏安全感、喜欢追求学术成就的自我会想：“你到底要叫我什么？
And she said, "I'm going to call you a storyteller."
她说：“我会称你为一个讲故事的人。
And I was like, "Why not 'magic pixie'?"
我当时就想：“为什么不用‘魔法小精灵’这个称呼呢？
I was like, "Let me think about this for a second."
我就想：“让我先想一想。
I tried to call deep on my courage.
我努力鼓起自己的勇气。
And I thought, you know, I am a storyteller.
我想，毕竟我是个讲故事的人啊。
I'm a qualitative researcher.
我是一名定性研究者。
I collect stories; that's what I do.
我收集故事，这就是我的工作。
And maybe stories are just data with a soul.
也许，故事只不过是带有“灵魂”的数据罢了。
And maybe I'm just a storyteller.
也许我只是一个喜欢讲故事的人罢了。
And so I said, "You know what?
于是我说：“你知道吗？
Why don't you just say I'm a researcher-storyteller."
你为什么不直接说“我是一名研究型故事讲述者”呢？
And she went, "Ha ha.
然后她说：“哈哈。
There's no such thing."
根本不存在这样的东西。
So I'm a researcher-storyteller, and I'm going to talk to you today -- we're talking about expanding perception --
我既是一名研究者，也是一名善于讲述故事的人。今天我想和大家探讨一个话题：如何拓展我们的认知范围（即如何让我们对周围世界的理解更加深入）。
and so I want to talk to you and tell some stories
因此，我想和大家谈谈，并分享一些故事。
about a piece of my research that fundamentally expanded my perception and really actually changed the way that I live and love and work and parent.
我想谈谈我的一项研究——这项研究从根本上改变了我的认知方式，也彻底改变了我的生活方式、对待爱情的方式、工作方式以及养育孩子的方式。
And this is where my story starts.
我的故事就从这里开始。
When I was a young researcher, doctoral student, my first year, I had a research professor who said to us,
当我还是一个年轻的研究员、博士生（第一年的时候），有一位指导我们的研究教授对我们说过：
"Here's the thing, if you cannot measure it, it does not exist."
事情是这样的：如果你无法测量某样东西，那么它就不存在。
And I thought he was just sweet-talking me.
我还以为他只是在跟我套近乎、哄我开心呢。
I was like, "Really?"
我当时就想：“真的吗？
and he was like, "Absolutely."
然后他说：“当然可以。
And so you have to understand that I have a bachelor's and a master's in social work, and I was getting my Ph.D.
因此，你必须明白：我拥有社会工作专业的学士学位和硕士学位，当时我正在攻读博士学位。
in social work, so my entire academic career was surrounded by people who kind of believed in the "life's messy,
在社会工作领域，我的整个学术生涯都是在与那些认同“生活本就充满混乱”这一观点的人共事中度过的。
love it."
太喜欢了！
And I'm more of the, "life's messy, clean it up, organize it and put it into a bento box."
而我更倾向于这样的观点：“生活本就混乱不堪，我们只需将其整理好、归类清楚，然后装进‘便当盒’里罢了。
And so to think that I had found my way, to found a career that takes me -- really,
想想看，我终于找到了属于自己的道路，找到了一份能够真正让我实现自我价值的职业……
one of the big sayings in social work is, "Lean into the discomfort of the work."
在社会工作中，有一句非常重要的格言：“要勇于面对工作中带来的不适感。
And I'm like, knock discomfort upside the head and move it over and get all A's.
我就想：把那些让人不适的因素统统抛到一边，然后努力取得所有的“A”成绩（即完美的成绩）。
That was my mantra.
这就是我的座右铭。
So I was very excited about this.
因此，我对这件事感到非常兴奋。