The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove · TEDx Talks
Sarah Knight分享她的'不给fuck方法'，教你如何减少对无关事物的投入，从而获得更多时间和精力去追求真正重要的事情。适合练习时间管理与生活态度。
Translator: Ellen Maloney Reviewer: Peter van de Ven
译者：Ellen Maloney 审稿人：Peter van de Ven
We're living in a post-tidying society.
我们生活在一个“不再热衷于整理物品”的社会中。
Everyone, including me, has a story about de-cluttering their home.
每个人，包括我，都有一些关于如何整理自己家中的杂物的经历或故事。
Gathering all of their possessions into the
把他们所有的物品都收集起来……
middle of the floor, deciding what brings joy, and then bidding farewell to a set of spatulas in pursuit of a calmer,
站在房间的中央，思考什么才能带来真正的快乐；随后，我告别了那些用来搅拌食物的铲子，去追求一种更加平静、宁静的生活方式……
happier life.
更幸福的生活。
But what if we could gather up
但是，如果我们能够聚在一起呢？
all of the other stuff - tasks, events, obligations relationships - and drop it at the kerb without a single regret?
把所有其他的事情——任务、事件、义务、人际关系等等——都抛到一边，毫无遗憾地放弃它们？
And by doing so, be free to focus our time, energy, and money on the stuff that really makes us happy?
通过这样做，我们就能将时间、精力和金钱投入到那些真正能让我们开心的东西上，从而获得真正的自由。
Well, I figured out how to do it.
嗯，我已经想出了该怎么做的方法。
It is great, and I call it, "The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck."
这真是太棒了！我把它称为“那种‘毫不在乎’的神奇力量——它能够彻底改变一个人的生活”。
I hope you'll excuse my language because there is more where that came from.
我希望你们能原谅我的言辞——其实我的不满还有很多。
Before I can teach you how to stop giving a fuck, we have to talk about what it means to give one in the first place.
在我教你如何“不再在乎任何事情”之前，我们首先得谈谈“在乎”到底意味着什么。
'Giving a fuck' means you care, right?
在乎某件事”就是表示你真的关心那个人或那件事，对吧？
So when I say, "I don't give a fuck about 'Game of Thrones,'" I mean, "I don't care about 'Game of Thrones.'"
所以，当我说“我根本不在乎《权力的游戏》”时，我的意思就是“我真的对《权力的游戏》毫无兴趣”。
Now, let's take the concept a step further.
现在，让我们把这个概念再推进一步。
Let's define your 'fucks' as your time, energy, and money.
我们可以将你的“付出”（即你投入的时间、精力和金钱）视为你的“成本”。
If you don't care about something, you should stop giving your fucks to it.
如果你对某件事毫不在意，那就别再浪费精力去关心它了。
I don't care about 'Game of Thrones' so I don't spend time watching it; I don't spend energy wondering where the next season is going;
我对《权力的游戏》并不感兴趣，因此不会花时间去看这部剧；也不会去猜测下一季的内容会是什么。
and I don't spend my money on the books, merchandise, or anything Westeros related.
我不会把钱花在书籍、周边商品或任何与《维斯特洛》相关的物品上。
'Game of Thrones' does not get any of my fucks.
《权力的游戏》完全吸引不了我的兴趣。
Make sense?
明白了吧？
By making these calculated decisions, you wind up with more time, energy, and money to spend on the things you really do care about.
通过做出这些经过深思熟虑的决策，你最终会拥有更多的时间、精力和金钱，可以用来投入到那些真正让你关心的事情上。
And I call that "making a fuck budget."
我称这种方法为“制定一个糟糕至极的预算”。
I'll get back to fuck budgets in
我会再回来讨论预算的问题。
a minute, but first, I want to tell you a little bit about how the life-changing magic of not giving a fuck happened to me.
等一下……不过在开始之前，我想先跟你们讲讲，究竟是如何“不再在乎任何事情”这种改变人生的“魔法”降临到我身上的。
Two and a half years ago, I was a senior editor at a major New York publishing house.
两年半前，我在纽约一家知名出版社担任高级编辑。
I had spent 15 years clawing my way up the corporate ladder, I had a roster of best-selling authors,
我花了15年时间在企业的晋升道路上不断努力；如今，我的团队里已经汇聚了一批畅销书作家。
and everything I always thought I wanted from my career was coming to pass.
我一直以来都认为自己在职业生涯中想要实现的一切，终于都一一实现了。
But I was really, really unhappy.
但我真的非常非常不开心。
The kind of unhappy that makes it hard to get out of bed in the morning;
那种让人感到极度不快乐的状态，会让人早上很难从床上起来……
the kind of unhappy that makes it hard to commute 45 minutes on the NYC subway;
那种让人感到极度不快乐的状态，会让人连在纽约市地铁上乘坐45分钟的路程都变得难以忍受……
and hard to spend eight - ten hours at your desk before turning around, going home, and doing it all over again.
每天在办公桌前坐上八到十个小时，然后回家，第二天再重复同样的事情……这样的生活实在让人难以忍受。
So, I quit.
于是，我辞职了。
And making that decision was also really hard.
做出那个决定也非常困难。
A lot of red wine, a lot of tears.
喝了很多红葡萄酒，流了很多眼泪。
But what came after I quit was nothing short of life-changing.
然而，我辞职之后发生的事情简直改变了我的整个人生。
Once I removed myself from the culture and lifestyle of a job that had been making me so unhappy,
当我摆脱了那份让我极度不开心的工作所带来的文化氛围和生活方式之后，
I was free to focus my time and energy on what would make me happy - including working,
我可以自由地将自己的时间和精力投入到那些能让我开心的事情上——当然也包括工作。
but just in a different way - and eventually, on moving from Brooklyn to a tropical island.
只不过方式有所不同罢了；最终，他们从布鲁克林搬到了一个热带岛屿上。