How to Succeed Without Confidence, Motivation, or Healing | Evy Poumpouras | TEDxAthens · TEDx Talks
Evy Poumpouras分享她作为特勤局特工的经历，揭示成功并非依赖自信、动力或治愈，而是源于对自我认知的改变。适合练习职场沟通与自我成长。
Transcriber: Jiyoung Hong Reviewer: Fadwa Zahed
转录者：洪智英（Jiyoung Hong） 审稿人：法德瓦·扎赫德（Fadwa Zahed）
I began my career as a former special agent with the United States Secret Service and the U.S.
我的职业生涯始于美国特勤局（United States Secret Service）的一名前特工。
Secret Service.
特勤局。
There's a dual mission at agency.
该机构肩负着双重使命。
You do protection, which means you protect, the president, former presidents, foreign heads of state, and you also work criminal investigations,
你的职责包括提供安保服务，这意味着你需要保护总统、前总统以及外国国家元首的安全；同时，你还需要负责开展刑事调查工作。
serious crimes across the board.
各类严重的犯罪行为普遍存在。
And I did interviews and interrogations after I left the US Secret Service, I had a more public persona.
在我离开美国特勤局之后，我还接受了各种采访和讯问；那时我的公众形象已经更加鲜明了。
I wrote my book, Becoming Bulletproof, and then I began working on air.
我写完了自己的书《如何变得“刀枪不入”（Becoming Bulletproof）》，之后便开始从事与媒体相关的工作。
Today I work for NBC news and I cover crime and national security.
如今我在NBC新闻部门工作，负责报道与犯罪及国家安全相关的新闻。
What was interesting is people began writing into me, and they started writing into me with questions, wanting guidance every.
有趣的是，人们开始给我写信，他们提出的问题各种各样，都希望得到我的指导。
I want to ask my boss for a raise, but I don't know how to do it.
我想向老板提出加薪的请求，但不知道该怎么做。
I'm afraid every.
恐怕每个……（“every”后面应该接具体的事物或情况，但原文没有提供。）
I'd like to change career paths, but I don't know how to do it, I'm afraid.
我想改变自己的职业发展方向，但恐怕我不知道该怎么做。
And the questions vary.
这些问题各不相同。
They were all over the place and I began doing mentor sessions.
他们分散在各个地方，于是我开始组织导师指导活动（即“mentor sessions”）。
I thought, you know, I really can't answer a person's question in a text or in a note or even in an email.
我想，其实我根本无法通过短信、便条或电子邮件来回答别人的问题。
So I started doing a few mentor sessions, guiding people.
于是我开始组织一些指导性的培训课程，帮助人们解决问题或提升能力。
Then a few became a few dozen, then a few dozen became a few hundred.
起初只有几个，后来变成了几十个，再后来几十个又变成了几百个。
And over the years, I did hundreds of mentor sessions with people,
这些年来，我与许多人进行了数百次指导交流（即“导师辅导会”）。
and I found a pattern.
我发现了一个规律（或模式）。
I found a pattern that they were all at the core, struggling with common issues, that there were these inhibitors,
我发现了一个规律：他们所有人都面临着一些共同的问题，而且在解决问题的过程中遇到了种种阻碍（即所谓的“抑制剂”）。
these patterns in their way of thinking and behavior that caused them to be stuck, that caused them not to know how to move forward.
这些思维方式和行为模式使他们陷入了困境，让他们不知道该如何继续前进。
And I want to share these with you today.
今天，我想把这些分享给大家。
First inhibitor, you're not that special.
第一个抑制剂的出现，说明你并没有什么特别的之处（即你的“特殊性”其实并不存在）。
Here's the thing.
事情是这样的……
We may like to think of ourselves as special.
我们或许喜欢认为自己很特别。
Okay, so if I'm special, then that means you're not special.
好吧，如果我“很特别”，那么这就意味着你并不“特别”。
Well, or if you're all special, then nobody is special.
嗯，或者如果你们都认为自己很特别的话，那么其实根本没有人是特别的。
The other thing is, when you think of yourself as being special, it kind of means that you're separate from everyone else.
另一点是，当你认为自己是特别的时，这实际上意味着你与其他所有人是不同的（或者说，你将自己与他们区分开来）。
You are unique.
你是独一无二的。
You know, it's interesting.
你知道吗，这真的很有趣。
I'm a criminal justice professor, and obviously my background is criminology.
我是一名刑事司法专业的教授，显然我的专业背景是犯罪学。
We found that people who commit crime, chronic crime, those people that commit crime over and over and over again,
我们发现，那些犯下罪行的人，尤其是那些长期反复犯罪的人……
they think they're special because the laws and the rules don't apply to them.
他们认为自己很特别，因为法律和规则并不适用于他们。
The laws and the rules are for everybody else.
那些法律和规则都是为其他人制定的。
I'm special.
我很特别。
What else is really interesting is that those who think of themselves as special become extremely self-focused.
另一个真正有趣的现象是：那些自认为与众不同的人往往会变得极度以自我为中心。
I am so focused on myself and me that I make my problems special.
我过于关注自己，以至于把自己的问题看得过于严重（或者说，我把自己的问题“特殊化”了）。
My pain is special and my suffering is special.
我的痛苦与众不同，我的苦难也同样与众不同。
Nobody knows how I feel because I am so special that I hurt so differently.
没有人知道我的感受——因为我太特别了，以至于我所经历的痛苦与众不同（即：别人感受到的痛苦与我感受到的痛苦在性质或程度上都有很大差异）。