How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF · TEDx Talks
Mel Robbins分享如何摆脱自我限制，实现目标。适合练习自我激励、目标设定和积极行动。
Transcriber: Judith Matz Reviewer: Tatjana Jevdjic
转录者：朱迪思·马茨 审稿人：塔蒂亚娜·耶夫迪奇
Bigger welcome!
更热烈的欢迎！
Hello, San Francisco!
你好，旧金山！
TEDx – oh my God, blinding light!
TEDx……哦，我的天啊，那刺眼的光芒简直让人睁不开眼！
Hi, everybody!
大家好！
How are you?
你最近怎么样？
(Audience cheering) Fine?!
（观众欢呼）很好吗？！
Oh my gosh!
哦，我的天啊！
Okay, so...
好吧，那么……
My name is Mel Robbins, and for the last seventeen years, I have done nothing but help people get everything that they want.
我的名字是梅尔·罗宾斯，在过去的十七年里，我一直在帮助人们实现他们想要的一切。
Within reason!
在合理的范围内！
My husband's here.
我丈夫在这里。
So, I've done it in the courtroom, in the boardroom, in the bedroom, in people's living room, whatever room you want to be in,
所以，我在法庭上、董事会会议室里、卧室里、人们的客厅里……无论你身处哪个房间，都做过这件事。
if I'm there, I will help you get whatever you want by any means necessary.
如果我在场，我会想尽一切办法帮助你得到你想要的东西。
For the last three years – I host a syndicated radio show.
在过去三年里，我一直主持着一档在全国各地电台播出的联合制作的广播节目。
Five days a week, I go live in forty cities and I talk to men and women across America who feel stuck.
每周有五天，我都会前往四十座不同的城市，与那些感到自己陷入困境的美国人（无论男女）进行交流。
Do you know that a third of Americans feel dissatisfied with their lives right now?
你知道吗？目前有三分之一的美国人对自己的人生感到不满。
That is a hundred million people!
那可是有一亿人啊！
That's insane!
太疯狂了！
And I've come face to face with it in this new show that I'm doing, which is also insane,
在我正在制作的这部新剧中，我直面了这个问题；这部剧本身也相当“疯狂”（即充满了各种意想不到的元素）。
it's called "In-laws".
它们被称为“姻亲”。
I move in with families across America – You guessed it!
我搬去和美国各地的家庭一起生活。你们猜对了！
– who are at war with their in-laws.
那些与自己的姻亲处于战争状态的人。
We move them into the same house, I verbally assassinate everybody,
我们把他们都安置到同一所房子里，然后我当面狠狠地骂了所有人一顿。
we open up Pandora's box, and I get people to stop arguing about the donuts and who is hosting Thanksgiving dinner,
我们打开了“潘多拉的盒子”（即引发了一系列意想不到的问题）；这样一来，人们就不再为“该买哪种甜甜圈”或“谁来主持感恩节晚餐”等问题争论不休了。
and talk about the real stuff.
咱们来谈谈真正重要的事情吧。
And that's what I want to talk to you about.
这就是我想和大家讨论的内容。
I'm here for you.
我在这里支持你。
I'm going to tell you everything I know in less than eighteen minutes about how to get what you want.
我将在不到十八分钟的时间内，把我知道的所有关于如何实现自己目标的方法都告诉你们。
So I want you to take a millisecond right now and think about what you want.
那么，我希望你现在花一毫秒的时间，思考一下自己真正想要什么。
You!
就是你！
And I want you to be selfish.
我希望你能有点自私。
Screw Simon and the "We" thing.
去他的西蒙，还有那些“我们”之类的鬼话。
This is about me, right now!
这说的就是我，就是现在！
Sorry, Simon.
对不起，西蒙。
What do you want?
你想要什么？
And here's the deal.
事情是这样的……
I don't want it to sound good to other people.
我不想让这件事在别人听来显得很好（或令人满意）。
Being healthy will not get your ass on a treadmill.
仅仅保持健康状态，并不足以让你真正开始在跑步机上锻炼身体。
Losing your manboobs, so you can hook up with somebody, now that's motivation.
为了能和某个人在一起而放弃自己的“男性胸部”（即放弃自己原本的男性特征），这可真是十足的动力啊。