Emotional Intelligence: Using the Laws of Attraction | D. Ivan Young | TEDxLSCTomball · TEDx Talks
讲解情绪智慧与吸引力法则的关系，强调情绪对现实的影响。适合练习情感管理和自我激励。
It's really good to be here and I want to first acknowledge these students because this is not easy when you're a student,
能够来到这里真是太好了。首先，我想感谢这些学生们——因为对于学生来说，能够做到这一点其实并不容易。
it's not even easy when you're a professional.
即使对于专业人士来说，这件事也并不容易。
So can we get these guys a hand?
那么，我们能帮帮这些人吗？
Thank you.
谢谢。
I'm here to talk to you about two things that you would think, just do not go together.
我来这里是想和你们谈谈两件看似完全不相容的事情。
Those two things are emotional intelligence and the laws of attraction.
这两者分别是情商（Emotional Intelligence）和吸引力法则（Laws of Attraction）。
I was talking to Dr. Thomas the other day when I came for the rehearsal and he said,
前几天我去排练的时候，和托马斯博士聊了聊，他说……
well doc, emotional intelligence, isn't that being
嗯，医生，情商（Emotional Intelligence）不就是关于……的能力吗？
aware and having clarity about your feelings
清楚地意识到自己的感受，并对这些感受有清晰的认识。
and the feelings of other people when you're in the midst of a set of circumstances or a situation with them?
当你身处某种情境中，与他人共同面对这些情况时，你会如何理解他们的感受呢？
And I said, yeah, that is definitely a definition for that and a very accurate definition for that.
我说：“没错，这确实是对该概念的一个定义，而且是一个非常准确的定义。
But the truth about emotional intelligence goes far beyond having just clarity about people.
但关于情商的真相远不止于对他人心理状态的清晰理解。
It's clarity about situations, circumstances.
这是一种对各种情况、各种境遇的清晰认知。
Why are you there?
你为什么会在那里？
When you stop and think about I'm in this situation, I'm in the midst of something.
当你停下来仔细想想时，你会发现：自己正处于某种特定的情境中，正在经历着某些事情。
Now what is that something?
那么，那个“某物”到底是什么呢？
And more than likely that something is
而且很有可能确实存在某种情况（或某种问题）。
a set of circumstances or a dilemma
一系列特定的情况或一种令人进退两难的困境
you may have encountered that you attracted into your life and that's where the laws of attraction come to meet emotional intelligence.
你可能遇到过这样的情况：某些人被你吸引到了你的生活中。这时，“吸引力法则”（laws of attraction）与“情商”（emotional intelligence）就发挥了作用。
Like attracts like these things that you expect come to you.
相似的事物总是会相互吸引；那些你期望会来到自己身边的事物，往往也正是与你相似的。
What we believe is that if we
我们认为，如果我们……
say some affirmations, if we take a moment and visualize something do a vision board or something of that nature,
说一些积极的肯定语；如果我们花点时间，通过制作“愿景板”（vision board）之类的工具来可视化某个目标或愿景，也会很有帮助。
that's what's going to happen, but not true.
事情确实会那样发展，但那并不是事实。
As a matter of fact, if I
事实上，如果我……
say right now do not think of a chimpanzee wearing a red tie and a blue and white pinstripe suit,
现在就告诉我：不要去想象一只戴着红色领带、穿着蓝白条纹西装的黑猩猩。
whatever you do, do not picture this chimpanzee wearing this red bow tie and this blue pinstripe suit,
无论你做什么，都不要想象这只黑猩猩戴着这条红色领结、穿着这套蓝色条纹西装的样子。
what do you keep thinking of?
你一直在想些什么呢？
The very thing that I told you don't think about because that is where you are putting your E motion,
恰恰就是我告诉过你不要去想的那件事——因为正是这件事让你产生了强烈的情绪反应（即“E动”）。
that energy plus motion and the more emotion you pour into anything,
那种能量、动作，以及你投入到任何事物中的更多情感……
the more of that thing you receive.
你获得的那种东西越多，就越好。
In other words, you can say one thing and do another and as we well know many of us typically say all the right things,
换句话说，你可以说一套话，却做另一套事。我们都知道，很多人通常都会说一些听起来很正确的话（即表面上符合道德或规范的话），但实际上他们的行为却与这些话相悖。
but do we do them?
但我们真的会去做这些事情吗？
If you don't believe me, go to somebody's house and look at all the dusty workout equipment, look at all the diets that they tried,
如果你不相信我的话，那就去别人家里看看那些积满灰尘的健身器材，再看看他们尝试过的各种减肥方法吧。
go to a gym and look at
去健身房看看吧。
the people that signed up that are no longer coming because what we have done is we've taken the laws of attraction and misapplied them.
那些报名参加活动但后来没有再来的人，其实是因为我们错误地运用了“吸引力法则”（即那些关于如何吸引他人或实现目标的原理）。
We don't take serious the things that
我们并不把那些事情当回事（即认为它们并不重要或值得认真对待）。
we feel we deserve enough in order for them to manifest into our lives and how do you stop that?
我们认为自己值得拥有那些美好的事物，让它们真正出现在我们的生活中；那么，要如何阻止这种情况发生呢？
Real simple, monitor what you feel, what you constantly think about, that is exactly what you get.
非常简单：关注自己的感受以及自己经常思考的事情，因为得到的结果恰恰就是这些。
If you keep thinking, my luck is never, everybody gets it with me, I'll never have that, I'll never live in that house,
如果你一直这样想：“我的运气从来都不好；别人都能得到那些东西，而我永远也得不到；我也永远住不上那栋房子……
you know, that's for them, whoever them or those people are.
你知道的，那些东西是给他们准备的，不管他们是谁。