Don't Believe Everything You Think | Lauren Weinstein | TEDxPaloAlto · TEDx Talks
Lauren Weinstein在TEDx演讲中分享如何摆脱限制性信念，适合练习自我认知和成长类话题。
Translator: Zsófia Herczeg Reviewer: Peter van de Ven This elephant has incredible strength.
翻译者：Zsófia Herczeg 审稿人：Peter van de Ven 这头大象拥有惊人的力量。
She can uproot a tree with her trunk alone.
她仅凭自己的躯干就能连根拔起一棵树。
Yet she will remain in captivity, held by only a light rope.
然而，她仍将处于被囚禁的状态中，仅被一根细绳拴住。
Despite her ability to easily break away, she doesn't even try.
尽管她有能力轻松摆脱困境，但她甚至都不尝试这么做。
Why?
为什么呢？
It starts when she is young.
这一切都始于她年幼的时候。
She is first tied down when she is small and not yet strong enough to break the rope.
她还是个小孩子的时候就被绑住了，那时她还没有足够的力气来挣断绳子。
She'll try at first, try as hard as she can to break free, and try and try,
一开始她会尝试，会尽她所能去挣脱束缚，一遍又一遍地尝试……
but eventually realize she can't.
但最终她意识到自己做不到。
Suddenly, something attaches itself to her that is stronger than any rope or chain or fence.
突然间，有一种东西附着在了她身上，这种东西比任何绳子、链条或栅栏都要强大得多。
It's the belief that she can't break free.
人们认为她无法摆脱这种束缚（或困境）。
It's this belief that holds her back - despite her ability.
正是这种信念阻碍了她的发展，尽管她本身具备相应的能力。
I've had these same beliefs -
我也曾经持有过同样的信念。
you may have too - beliefs that held me back, beliefs that led me to feel unfulfilled in my work,
你可能也有类似的经历：那些束缚你的信念，那些让你在工作中感到无法充分发挥自己潜能的信念。
to struggle in my relationships and to live a life that was far from the one I am living now.
在我的人际关系中不断遇到困难，过着与现在截然不同的生活。
It was only when I became aware of my ropes and actively pulled against them that I found myself in a different reality.
直到我意识到自己被“绳子”束缚着，并开始主动反抗这些“绳子”时，我才发现自己处于一个不同的现实之中。
How do you break the ropes that tie you down?
你该如何挣脱那些束缚你的“绳索”（即那些限制你自由的因素）呢？
Don't believe everything you think.
不要相信自己想到的每一件事。
When I was six years old, I had a favorite baby sitter, Amber.
我六岁的时候，有一个非常喜欢的保姆，她的名字叫安珀。
One morning, my mother told me we couldn't have her babysit because she didn't have enough money to pay her.
一天早上，妈妈告诉我我们不能请她来帮忙照看孩子了，因为她没有足够的钱来支付她的劳务费。
So that afternoon, I started my first company.
就在那个下午，我创立了自己的第一家公司。
I gathered rocks from around the neighborhood, painted them with my art set, and went door to door,
我从附近的各个地方收集了石头，用我的美术工具给它们上色，然后挨家挨户地分发这些石头。
selling them to our neighbors.
把它们卖给我们的邻居们。
That night, it was Amber and I on the couch together.
那天晚上，只有我和安珀一起坐在沙发上。
When I was young, I was bold, outgoing and fearless.
当我年轻的时候，我大胆、外向且无所畏惧。
I wore what I wanted
我穿了自己想穿的衣服。
or didn't want to wear,
或者不想穿它们。
guided by my own voice that told me what would make me happy.
我听从自己内心的声音指引——那声音告诉我什么才能让我真正快乐。
I was also in love.
我也曾坠入爱河。
His name was Fernando, and he was wonderful.
他的名字叫费尔南多，他非常棒。
As with everything else, I wasn't afraid to grab him with both hands.
和其他事情一样，我毫不害怕用双手去抓住它。
As I grew older, this picture started to fade.
随着年龄的增长，这幅画的颜色逐渐变得暗淡、模糊起来。
My exuberance was replaced with timidness, my leadership with conformity, my boldness with fear.
我曾经的热情与活力已被胆怯所取代；我的领导能力被盲目服从他人的态度所取代；我的勇敢与无畏也被恐惧所取代。
I don't think any of us leave childhood without some ropes despite our parents' best intentions.
我认为，尽管我们的父母怀有最好的意图，但我们在离开童年的时候，内心深处仍然会残留着一些“束缚”或“依赖”的情绪（这些情绪可以被视为某种“心理上的绳索”）。
I grew up with a mother who was determined to give me the perfect life.
我是在一位母亲的教育下长大的，她一心想要为我创造一个完美的生活环境。
Armed with love and good intentions, she did everything for me to help me be perfect.
她满怀爱与善意，为我做了所有能帮助我变得完美的事情。
I'd pack a suitcase to go on a school trip, and she'd unpack it and repack it in a more perfect way.
我会收拾好行李箱准备去参加学校组织的旅行；而她会把我的行李重新整理好，整理得更加“完美”（即更加整齐、有序）。
I'd be ready to turn in a school art project, and then she'd add her own brush strokes to make it better.
我会准备好提交自己的学校艺术作品，然后她会再添加一些自己的笔触，让作品更加完美。
Later she told me when my choice of boyfriend or apartment wasn't good enough.
后来，每当我对男友或公寓的选择不够令她满意时，她就会这样对我说。
Although she just wanted what was best for me, I stopped knowing what was best for me.
虽然她只是希望我得到最好的，但我却不再清楚什么才是真正对我最好的了。