A 3-Step Guide to Believing in Yourself | Sheryl Lee Ralph | TED · TED
Sheryl Lee Ralph分享如何在多次拒绝后建立自信，适合练习口语和情感表达。
I am an endangered species (Applause and cheers) But I sing no victim song.
我属于濒危物种（掌声与欢呼声）……但我并不会唱那些表达“受害者”悲哀的歌曲。
I am a woman.
我是一名女性。
I am an artist.
我是一名艺术家。
And I know where my voice ...
我知道我的声音该从哪里传出来……
belongs.
属于……
(Applause and cheers) Now, you might have heard me sing that song.
（掌声和欢呼声）现在，你们可能已经听过我演唱那首歌了。
It was September 12th, 2022, right after Amy Poehler and Seth Meyers said, "And the winner is, Sheryl Lee Ralph!"
那是2022年9月12日，在艾米·波勒（Amy Poehler）和塞斯·梅耶斯（Seth Meyers）宣布“获胜者是雪莉·李·拉尔夫（Sheryl Lee Ralph）”之后不久。
What!?
什么！？
I had just won the Emmy Award for Best Supporting Actress in a comedy for my role as Mrs. Barbara Howard on your favorite TV show,
我刚刚凭借在你们最喜爱的电视节目中饰演芭芭拉·霍华德夫人这一角色，获得了艾美奖（Emmy Award）中“喜剧类最佳女配角”奖项。
"Abbott Elementary."
阿博特小学。
Oh, yes.
哦，是的。
And I was shocked.
我感到非常震惊。
As the children would say, shooketh into disbelief.
用孩子们的话来说，就是“震惊得简直不敢相信”。
Oh, my goodness, it was my first time at the Emmys and I won.
哦，我的天啊！这是我第一次参加艾美奖颁奖典礼，而且我还获奖了！
Yes!
是的！
And I got to tell you, in that moment, I was so stunned into disbelief that I don't know how I got up on the stage.
我必须告诉你，就在那一刻，我震惊得简直无法相信这一切；我甚至都不记得自己是怎么走上舞台的。
There I was, just listening to that roar of applause.
我就站在那里，静静地聆听着那阵阵热烈的掌声。
Mm mm mm.
嗯……嗯……嗯……
And my whole career flashed right there in front of me.
我的整个职业生涯仿佛都在我眼前一一闪现。
Starting with 19-year-old Sheryl Lee in her first movie being directed by the great Sidney Poitier.
故事的主人公是19岁的谢丽尔·李（Sheryl Lee）——她出演的首部电影由伟大的西德尼·波蒂埃（Sidney Poitier）执导。
Oh, yeah, you can clap that.
哦，对，你可以为此鼓掌。
Followed by ten years of “no” after “no” after “no.”
随后是长达十年的连续拒绝——一次又一次的“不行”。
Before the next film role came about.
在下一个电影角色出现之前……
But I filled in that time with TV
不过，我通过看电视来打发那段空闲时间。
and more "nos" and more rejection until I made it big on Broadway in what has become the iconic musical of the '80s,
一次又一次的拒绝，一次又一次的“不行”……直到我在百老汇大获成功，参演了那部后来成为80年代标志性音乐剧的作品。
because I say so, "Dreamgirls."
因为我是这么说的，《Dreamgirls》。
And boy, did I learn a lot of life lessons there.
我在那里确实学到了很多人生道理。
And I mean, after so many moments
我的意思是，在经历了这么多时刻之后……
of doubt, disbelief, there I was, on that Emmy stage, with this huge sign in front of me flashing "Stop now," "Stop now," "Stop now."
毫无疑问，我当时充满了怀疑与不安；但我还是站在了艾美奖的舞台上，面前竖着一块巨大的指示牌，上面不停地闪烁着“立刻停止”的字样。
And I started to think, “My God, what if I had stopped after all of those ‘nos?’
我开始思考：“我的天啊，如果我在那些无数次被拒绝之后就放弃了，会怎么样呢？
What if I had stopped after all of those moments of feeling defeated?
如果我在那些感到挫败的时刻之后就停止了的话，会怎么样呢？
What if I had stopped?"
要是我当时停下来会怎么样呢？
I wouldn't be standing there for that golden moment.
为了那个“黄金时刻”，我是绝对不会站在那里的。
But right now, many of us, we are feeling ...
但此刻，我们中的许多人，都感到……
deeply challenged trying to hold on and believe in ourselves, and I do not mean in a toxic way.
在努力坚持自我、相信自己的过程中，我确实感受到了巨大的挑战；不过我这么说并非带有贬义或消极的含义。
I am talking about a way that comes from confidence, the kind of confidence that can keep us moving forward when we are feeling
我指的是一种源自自信的方式——那种能够让我们在感到迷茫或困难时依然继续前进的自信。
like we are carrying the weight of the pandemic, trying to figure out all of this political division,
就好像我们独自承担着这场疫情的沉重负担，还要努力解决所有这些政治分歧一样……
fighting all of the mental, physical, social violence in our homes, in our communities, to climate change, social media.
我们要对抗家中、社区里存在的各种心理暴力、身体暴力以及社会暴力现象；同时也要应对气候变化和社交媒体的负面影响。
It's a lot.
确实很多。
Making it hard to believe in the goodness in the world.
这让人很难相信世界上还存在善良。