5 Practical Ways to Take Control of Your Life | Jim VandeHei | TED · TED
Jim VandeHei分享了他如何从一个不成功的年轻人成长为成功人士的经验。他提出五个简单但有效的自我掌控方法，帮助你改变人生轨迹，适合练习自我管理与目标设定。
I want you to spend the next 10 minutes being absurdly self-indulgent, which is advice I would almost never otherwise give people.
我希望你在接下来的 10 分钟里尽情地放纵自己、满足自己的欲望——这种建议，我平时几乎永远不会给别人。
I want you to not think about the things you can't control.
我希望你不要去想那些你无法控制的事情。
AI, politics, your parents, your social media feed, your Tinder alerts.
人工智能（AI）、政治、你的父母、你的社交媒体动态、以及 Tinder 应用发送给你的通知……
By locking in on you for the next 600 seconds, I'm very confident that you're going to walk away
在接下来的 600 秒里，我会一直把注意力集中在你身上；因此，我非常有信心你最终会按照我的要求去做。
with what I think is the single best hack for longevity, purpose and living the type of lives that we want to live.
这其实是我认为最有效的“秘诀”之一——它能帮助我们实现长寿、找到生活的目标，并过上自己真正想要的生活。
First, who is this middle-aged dude preaching a gospel of self-indulgence?
首先，这个中年男子究竟是谁？他为什么要宣扬“放纵自我”的理念呢？
Well, the 20-year-old version of me, I'm very confident, was a much less impressive version of you.
嗯，20岁时的我，可以肯定地说，远没有你现在这么出色（或者说，远没有你现在这么令人印象深刻）。
Three years into college, I had a 1.491 grade point average that I was dragging around.
大学读了三年后，我的平均绩点只有1.491，这个成绩让我一直感到非常沮丧（或者说：让我感到非常尴尬/难堪）。
I was smoking a pack of Camel Lights a day.
我每天要抽一包 Camel Lights 香烟。
I was drinking prolifically.
我喝得非常多。
At night, I was delivering pizzas in my diesel VW Rabbit.
晚上，我驾驶着自己的柴油版大众Rabbit汽车去送披萨。
I was remarkably unhealthy, and I was remarkably unremarkable.
我的身体状况极差（几乎处于不健康的状态），但与此同时，我又极其“平凡”——在人群中毫无特别之处，没有任何引人注目的地方。
Within a decade, I'm interviewing presidents, I’m covering the White House for The Wall Street Journal and The Washington Post.
十年之内，我就能采访各国总统，并为《华尔街日报》和《华盛顿邮报》报道白宫的相关新闻。
Soon after, I’m starting and running companies.
不久之后，我就开始创立并经营公司了。
First Politico, then Axios.
先是《Politico》，接着是《Axios》。
So what the hell happened?
到底发生了什么事？
And in those dark times and in now, some very good times,
在那些黑暗的岁月里，以及在如今的许多美好时光里，
I really tried to become a student of what does it take to be successful and what makes great people great?
我确实努力去探究：究竟需要具备哪些条件才能取得成功？又是什么让优秀的人变得卓越？
What brings them real success?
是什么让他们真正取得了成功？
And there is a commonality to all of them.
它们都有一个共同点。
That all of them maniacally focus on controlling life's variables that you can control.
他们所有人都疯狂地专注于控制那些你可以掌控的生活中的变量。
You control you.
你只能控制自己。
That became my mantra, and that became my map for life.
这成为了我的座右铭，也成为了我人生道路的指引。
When I watched these people, whether they were teachers, doctors, entrepreneurs --
当我观察这些人时，无论他们是教师、医生还是企业家……
every day, they were maniacal about constructing their success and constructing their greatness piece by piece, day by day,
每一天，他们都全神贯注地致力于逐步实现自己的成功与卓越。
on their terms.
按照他们的条件。
If we're being honest, a lot of us just surrender to others or to other things.
说实话，我们很多人都会向他人或其他事物屈服。
We say, well, we can't do that because of my parents, my childhood, my circumstances, my DNA, my crappy luck.
我们总是说：“嗯，我们做不到那件事，因为我的父母、我的童年经历、我的生活环境、我的基因，还有我那糟糕的运气。
We just can't do it because we're under control of others or other things.
我们根本无法做到这一点，因为我们受制于他人或其他外部因素的控制。
And it's just BS.
这纯粹是一派胡言罢了。
And it's just not a good way to live.
这样的生活方式实在不好。
You control you, it's just a much better, brighter way to live.
你掌控着自己的命运；这其实是一种更美好、更充满希望的生活方式。
And so I want to walk you through five different things that you can do that are free,
因此，我想向大家介绍五种免费且可行的方法。
that you can start today and that are available to every single person in this room.
这些方法可以从今天就开始使用，而且对在场的每一个人来说都是可行的（也就是说，每个人都可以利用这些方法）。
You control today.
今天由你掌控一切。
From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed, you have scores of decisions to make that only you make.
从你醒来的那一刻起，直到你上床睡觉的那一刻，你都需要做出许多决定——而这些决定只有你自己才能做出。
Do you doomscroll, or do you meditate?
你是无目的地刷手机（即“ doomscroll”），还是选择静下心来冥想？
Do you eat Lucky Charms, or do you eat a healthy breakfast?
你是吃幸运符（Lucky Charms）这种零食，还是吃一份健康的早餐呢？
When someone snaps at you, do you snap back, or do you show a little bit of grace?
当有人对你发脾气时，你会回怼他们，还是会表现出一些宽容与礼貌呢？
At night, do you get hammered, or do you get some sleep?
晚上，你是喝得酩酊大醉，还是能睡一会儿觉？