How to Figure Out What You Really Want | Ashley Stahl | TEDxLeidenUniversity · TEDx Talks
通过真实故事讲述如何找到人生目标和理想职业路径，适合练习情感表达与人生规划类话题。
Transcriber: Marina Aalten Reviewer: Tanya Cushman It was 2:45 PM on a rainy Friday in Los Angeles.
转录者：Marina Aalten 审稿人：Tanya Cushman 那是洛杉矶一个下雨的周五下午2点45分。
My dad was just brewing a cup of coffee in the kitchen
我爸爸当时正在厨房里煮一杯咖啡。
when he answered a call from an unknown number.
当他接听一个未知号码的电话时……
He froze as he heard a woman violently crying and screaming on the other side of the line.
当他听到电话那头传来一个女人剧烈哭泣和尖叫的声音时，他顿时僵住了。
Next, a strong masculine voice came on.
接着，一个充满阳刚之气的声音传了出来。
And he said to my dad, "We have your daughter, and if you don't listen to every single word that we say,
然后他对我的父亲说：“我们抓到了你的女儿，如果你不听我们说的每一句话的话……
we're going to kill her."
我们要杀了她。
My dad paused, he lost his breath for a moment, and he managed to ask,
我爸爸停了一下，有那么一会儿他喘不过气来，然后终于问道：
"Can I talk to her?"
我能和她谈谈吗？
"Do you want us to break her arm?"
你想让我们打断她的手臂吗？
They taunted him.
他们嘲笑他。
Now, you have to understand I am one of two daughters.
现在，你们必须明白：我是家里两个女儿中的一个。
And sadly, just six months before this phone call came in, we took my big sister off of life support.
遗憾的是，在这次电话通话发生前的六个月，我们让我的姐姐停止了生命维持治疗（即让她离开了这个世界）。
I'll never forget the day that she died.
我永远不会忘记她去世的那一天。
My dad looked at me with this grief, with this heartbreak, bigger than the entire sky, and he kept repeating to me,
我父亲用充满悲伤与痛苦的眼神看着我——那种悲伤仿佛笼罩了整个世界。他不停地对我说：
saying, "Now I only have one daughter left."
他说：“现在我只剩下一个女儿了。
So, as anyone would when they're in fear, he gave his power away, and he desperately said to the kidnappers,
就像任何人在恐惧中会做的那样，他放弃了自己的力量，并拼命地对绑匪们说……
"This is my only daughter; I'll do whatever you want."
这是我唯一的女儿，无论你提出什么要求，我都会照做。
"Are you alone?"
你一个人吗？
the kidnappers asked him.
绑匪问他：“……
And in that moment, he locked eyes with my mom across the kitchen, pressed his fingers to his lips,
就在那一刻，他与对面的妈妈对视了一眼，然后将手指放在嘴唇上。
silently begging her to remain quiet.
他默默地恳求她保持安静。
And he said to them, "Yep, I'm alone," as he scribbled on a napkin.
他对他们说：“没错，我确实是一个人。”同时，他还在餐巾纸上匆匆写着些什么。
He wrote, "Go outside, quiet, call 911.
他写道：“走到外面，保持安静，然后拨打 911。
Ashley's been kidnapped" My sweet mom, she hurried outside with her hands trembling, and she managed to call 911.
阿什莉被绑架了！” 我亲爱的妈妈双手颤抖着冲了出去，最终成功拨打了911。
Meanwhile, my dad was being commanded by the kidnappers.
与此同时，我的父亲正被绑匪们控制着（即他们正在对父亲发号施令）。
"Get in your car," they said to him.
上车吧，”他们对他说。
"You're going to the bank, you're keeping us on the phone, and you're going to pay a ransom.
你要去银行，同时让我们保持电话联系，然后支付赎金。
And if you don't cooperate, we'll be sending you her body parts in the mail."
如果你不配合，我们就会把她的身体部位通过邮件寄给你。
My mom let the police know to meet her at the bank, and she tiptoed in the car so that they wouldn't hear her.
我妈妈通知了警察在银行与她会面，然后她蹑手蹑脚地钻进了车里，以免被警察听到她的声音。
The conversation in the car to the bank was all over the place.
在去银行的路上，车里的谈话内容杂乱无章、毫无条理。
In one minute, they were asking my dad how his day was.
在一分钟内，他们就问了我爸爸今天过得怎么样。
In the next minute, they were threatening to rape me.
下一分钟，他们就开始威胁要强奸我。
They pulled up at the bank, and
他们把车开到了银行门前。
my mom went to meet the police
我妈妈去见了警察。
officer, and meanwhile, my dad stiffly walked into the bank with his phone on in his pocket as promised
与此同时，我爸爸按照约定，把手机放在口袋里，然后僵硬地走进了银行。
so that the kidnapper could hear him wiring the funds.
这样绑匪就能听到他转账资金的过程了。
Meanwhile, as all of this was unfolding, I was actually sitting in my quaint, little Beverly Hills office,
与此同时，在这一切发生的同时，我其实正坐在自己位于比弗利山庄的那间古朴、小巧的办公室里。
conducting a podcast interview.
进行播客采访。
I remember throughout the conversation with my guest kind of seeing my phone light up across my desk and not thinking much of it.
我记得在和我的客人交谈的过程中，我时不时会看到放在桌子上的手机亮了起来，但并没有太在意这件事。