How to Claim Your Leadership Power | Michael Timms | TED · TED
TED演讲《如何展现领导力》中，Michael Timms分享了自我问责的三个习惯，帮助你在家庭和工作中激发他人的责任感，提升整体表现。适合练习领导力与自我管理。
Are there any other parents here who have struggled to get your kids out the door on time?
在座的家长们中，还有其他人也遇到过让孩子按时出门的困难吗？
So, you know, right?
所以，你懂的，对吧？
It's like herding kittens.
这就像赶一群小猫一样。
My wife and I would start nagging our three daughters
我和妻子就会开始不停地催促我们的三个女儿。
long before it was time to leave, but that obviously wasn't working because we were always late for everything.
早在该离开的时间之前，我们就该离开了……但显然这样的做法根本不起作用——因为我们总是迟到。
But one day was a complete Gong Show.
但有一天，整个场面简直就像一场荒诞至极的“滑稽秀”（Gong Show）。
Five minutes before we needed to leave for an important event, I found my oldest daughter on the porch reading,
在我们需要出发参加一个重要活动的前五分钟，我发现我的大女儿正在门廊上读书。
my middle daughter was playing the piano, and my youngest daughter wasn't wearing any socks.
我的 middle daughter（中间那个女儿）正在弹钢琴，而我的 youngest daughter（最小的女儿）则没有穿任何袜子。
So I told them, "Stop reading, stop playing the piano, put on your socks, and everybody get in the car."
于是我对他们说：“别再看书了，也别再弹钢琴了，穿上袜子，然后大家都上车吧。
Five minutes later, nobody was in the car.
五分钟后，车里已经没有人了。
On my way to help my youngest daughter with her socks, I noticed my oldest daughter was still on the porch reading.
在去帮小女儿挑选袜子的路上，我注意到大女儿还在门廊里看书。
Now I'm starting to lose it.
现在我开始有点失控了……
Her response?
她的回答是什么？
"I didn't hear you."
我没听到你说的话。
But before I could say a word, I heard the piano start playing again.
但我还没来得及说一句话，就听到钢琴又重新开始演奏了。
And that's the story of how I lost my mind.
这就是我“失去理智”的故事。
The end.
结束了。
I just wanted my daughters to take a little ownership for getting out the door on time.
我只是希望我的女儿们能够对自己能够按时出门这件事承担起一定的责任（或者说，能够更加主动地去做这件事）。
But then I remembered something I teach management teams.
但随后我想起了一件事——那就是我经常向管理团队传授的内容。
You can't inspire accountability in others until you model it yourself.
在你自己树立榜样之前，是无法激励他人承担责任的。
That's when I realized I wasn't taking any accountability for this problem, I was blaming it totally on my daughters.
就在那时，我意识到自己并没有为这个问题承担任何责任，反而把所有的过错都归咎于我的女儿们。
So I tried a different approach and looked in the mirror.
于是我尝试了另一种方法，对着镜子看了看自己。
What was I doing, or not doing, that may be contributing to this problem?
我做了什么（或者没有做什么），才可能导致这个问题的发生呢？
Then it hit me.
然后我突然明白了。
I knew when they needed to be done breakfast, dressed, groomed and ready to leave.
我知道他们什么时候需要吃早餐、穿好衣服、整理好自己，然后准备好出发。
But did they?
但他们真的这么做了吗？
I also knew what time it was,
我也知道现在是什么时间。
but there were no clocks in their bathrooms, which I discovered is like a different dimension from my girls where time ceases to exist.
不过他们的浴室里没有时钟；我发现，这与我女儿们的生活环境截然不同——在她们那里，时间仿佛根本不存在一样。
Solution.
解决方案。
I put big clocks everywhere and posted the schedule in a common area.
我在各个地方都安装了大型时钟，并将时间表张贴在公共区域。
And you know what?
你知道吗？
It actually worked.
它真的奏效了。
Now we're not perfect at getting out the door in time, but it's much better than it was.
虽然我们现在还不能总是准时出门，但情况已经比以前好多了。
I had fallen into the same trap that many people in leadership positions fall into,
我掉进了许多处于领导职位的人都会陷入的同一个陷阱里。
which is blaming other people for a problem without considering my part in it.
这种做法就是把问题归咎于他人，却完全忽略了自己在其中应承担的责任。
While working with leadership teams, I discovered three powerful habits that elevate the performance of others.
在与领导团队合作的过程中，我发现了一些能够显著提升他人绩效的强大习惯。
I call it the three habits of personal accountability.
我将这三种行为称为“个人责任感的三大习惯”。
Habit one: Don't blame.
习惯一：不要责怪别人。
Habit two: Look in the mirror.
习惯二：照照镜子。
Habit three: Engineer the solution.
习惯三：精心设计解决方案。