"Everything happens for a reason" -- and other lies I've loved | Kate Bowler | TED · TED
Kate Bowler在35岁被诊断出晚期癌症后，重新思考生活的意义。她挑战了‘一切皆有原因’的观念，分享了面对生命转折点时的深刻见解，适合练习情感与成长类话题。
There is some medical news that nobody, absolutely nobody, is prepared to hear.
有一些医学新闻，绝对没有任何人愿意去听。
I certainly wasn't.
我当然不是（那个意思）。
It was three years ago that I got a call in my office with the test results of a recent scan.
三年前，我的办公室接到一个电话，电话里传来了最近一次扫描的检查结果。
I was 35 and finally living the life I wanted.
我当时35岁，终于过上了自己想要的生活。
I married my high school sweetheart and had finally gotten pregnant after years of infertility.
我嫁给了高中时的恋人，经过多年不孕的困扰后，终于怀孕了。
And then suddenly we had a Zach, a perfect one-year-old boy/dinosaur, depending on his mood.
然后，突然之间，我们有了一个名叫扎克的男孩——一个一岁大的孩子；不过根据他的情绪不同，他有时也被当作“恐龙”来对待。
And having a Zach suited me perfectly.
拥有一个像扎克这样的人，对我来说再合适不过了。
I had gotten the first job I applied for in academia, land of a thousand crushed dreams.
我终于获得了自己在学术界申请的第一份工作——那个充满无数破碎梦想的地方。
And there I was, working at my dream job with my little baby and the man I had imported from Canada.
就这样，我实现了自己的梦想：一边从事着自己热爱的工作，一边照顾着我的宝宝，同时还有那位从加拿大带来的伴侣陪伴在我身边。
But a few months before, I'd started feeling pain in my stomach and had gone to every expert to find out why.
但在那之前的几个月里，我就开始感到胃部疼痛，于是咨询了所有相关的专家，试图弄清楚原因。
No one could tell me.
没有人能告诉我答案。
And then, out of the blue, some physician's assistant called me at work to tell me that I had stage IV cancer,
然后，突然之间，一位医生助理在工作时给我打了电话，告诉我我患了四期癌症。
and that I was going to need to come to the hospital right away.
我需要立刻去医院。
And all I could think of to say was, "But I have a son.
而我当时能想到的唯一一句话就是：“但我有一个儿子啊。
I can't end.
我无法结束……
This world can't end.
这个世界不能结束。
It has just begun."
一切才刚刚开始。
And then I called my husband, and he rushed to find me and I said all the true things that I have known.
然后我给丈夫打了电话，他立刻赶来找我。我把自己所知道的所有真相都告诉了他。
I said, "I have loved you forever, I have loved you forever.
我说：“我永远都爱着你。
I am so sorry.
我非常抱歉。
Please take care of our son."
请照顾好我们的儿子。
And then as I began the walk to the hospital, it crossed my mind for the first time, "Oh.
然后，当我开始走向医院的时候，我第一次想到：“哦……
How ironic."
真是具有讽刺意味啊。
I had just written a book called "Blessed."
我刚刚写了一本名为《Blessed》的书。
I am a historian and an expert in the idea that good things happen to good people.
我是一名历史学家，同时也坚信“好人总会遇到好事”这一观点。
I research a form of Christianity nicknamed "the prosperity gospel," for its very bold promise that God wants you to prosper.
我研究的是一种被称为“成功神学”（Prosperity Gospel）的基督教派别。这种神学主张非常大胆：它宣称上帝希望信徒能够获得物质上的成功与繁荣。
I never considered myself a follower of the prosperity gospel.
我从未认为自己是那些宣扬“成功神学”（即相信通过信仰和努力就能获得物质财富的神学观点）的人的追随者。
I was simply an observer.
我只是一个观察者而已。
The prosperity gospel believes that God wants to reward you if you have the right kind of faith.
繁荣福音”（Prosperity Gospel）认为，只要你拥有正确的信仰，上帝就会奖赏你。
If you're good and faithful, God will give you health and wealth and boundless happiness.
如果你品行端正、忠诚可靠，上帝就会赐予你健康、财富以及无尽的幸福。
Life is like a boomerang: if you're good, good things will always come back to you.
生活就像回旋镖：如果你做得好，美好的事情总会回到你身边。
Think positively.
保持积极的心态。
Speak positively.
要积极地表达自己的想法。
Nothing is impossible if you believe.
只要你有信念，就没有什么是不可能的。
I got interested in this very American theology when I was 18 or so, and by 25 I was traveling the country interviewing its celebrities.
大约在 18 岁的时候，我就对这种极具美国特色的神学思想产生了兴趣；到了 25 岁，我开始在全国范围内旅行，采访相关的知名人士。
I spent a decade talking to televangelists with spiritual guarantees for divine money.
我花了十年时间与那些声称能够通过某种“灵性方式”获得神赐财富的电视传教士交谈。
I interviewed countless megachurch pastors with spectacular hair about how they live their best lives now.
我采访了许多来自大型教会（这些教会的牧师通常都拥有非常出众的发型）的牧师，询问他们如今是如何过上最美好的生活的。
I visited with people in hospital waiting rooms and plush offices.
我走访了医院候诊室里的人们，也参观了那些装饰豪华的办公室。
I held hands with people in wheelchairs, praying to be cured.
我与那些坐在轮椅上的人手拉手，祈求自己能够康复。
I earned my reputation as destroyer of family vacations for always insisting on being dropped off at the fanciest megachurch in town.
我之所以获得了“破坏家庭度假计划的人”的名声，是因为我总是坚持要求家人把我送到镇上最豪华的大型教堂去。